5 More warning signs of divorce – a work of grace safe ways to make money online

I was admiring her nails, longing for my own. Having those fake nails was a luxury and with my safe ways to make money online husband’s work on shaky ground, he asked me to not spend any money unnecessarily – and that meant no more nails. I casually mentioned this to the woman whose nails I safe ways to make money online was admiring. To me, it wasn’t a big deal to not continue having my nails safe ways to make money online done if it meant less pressure and stress for my safe ways to make money online guy. But her response made me feel uneasy and awkward. She was quite brash in telling me that she didn’t care what her husband said about nails (finances). She worked two jobs and she was getting her nails safe ways to make money online done every month whether he liked it or not. I chuckled and walked away. I was just unsure of what to say to that! Last week, I write a post titled 5 warning signs of divorce. This little story leads us to 5 more warning signs safe ways to make money online of divorce.

Now, I wouldn’t say she was headed for a divorce because of safe ways to make money online that conversation, but it did raise some red flags for unhealthy communication safe ways to make money online and respect. And, of course, I am not naive enough to think that this conversation safe ways to make money online was the be all and end all for my concerns. Maybe she was only joking. I don’t know. Maybe she would stop having her nails done if her safe ways to make money online husband asked her to. I don’t know. What I do know is that attitudes such as this safe ways to make money online are not good for a marriage. It shows an outright lack of respect and honor for safe ways to make money online our husbands – and respect and honor are among a man’s greatest needs. When we minimize the importance of meeting those needs, our marriages are headed for trouble.

Being a woman, I tend to take things personally or to heart. So, when he’d make his insensitive critical comments, it would cut me deeply. My spirit would be wounded. And he just wouldn’t ‘get it’. And, of course, my natural tendency would be to distance myself. It’s super hard to be intimate with someone you don’t trust. I know many of you know what I mean here. Words like seeds

When we speak to our spouse (or our children) we must remember that our words are like seeds. They will plant themselves it the heart of the receiver safe ways to make money online and they will grow. Then we will reap the fruit of what has been safe ways to make money online planted – good or bad. So, if you are getting a negative response from your spouse, search your heart to see if you are being critical safe ways to make money online or negative towards them.

A few years ago, I was really angry with marcus about something he had safe ways to make money online said. Now, the mature thing for me to so would have been safe ways to make money online to just talk to him about it. But no. I had to be childish and give him the silent safe ways to make money online treatment. We went to bed that night without talking. And the next night. And the night after that…and it continued. What started out as a small problem that would have safe ways to make money online been easily and quickly resolved if I had just communicated safe ways to make money online with him properly escalated into a huge problem. And I did not know how to fix it. I hated not talking to him. I had so much to tell him! But my stubbornness strong-will wouldn’t let me.

You can be mad at your spouse for what they’ve done, but you can still speak to them in a kind safe ways to make money online manner. This is agape love. Love not based upon feelings or emotions. It’s based on the lord. Stability and trust are central. I’ve set the thermostat to high and I leave it safe ways to make money online there no matter what. I don’t change how I talk to marcus (and I should talk!). I don’t change how I treat him. Punishing or withdrawing is out of the question. I still talk to him with respect and love. I can still cuddle him at night – and be intimate.

Hey – we do the exact same thing, don’t we? We blame god for our problems (seriously! Why can’t a mystery cheque just appear in my mailbox for safe ways to make money online a million dollars???). We blame our spouse (if he just did such-and-such, I wouldn’t be so irritated). Or we blame the kids. Or our parents. How about the church. There are so many people to blame! Our boss, friends, colleagues, students, pets, strangers. But never us. No way. It’s never our fault!

If we aren’t wholly committed to our spouse, then we are ‘shopping around’. We’re just waiting for something better to come along. There is no security in the relationship. If I think my husband is still shopping around, waiting for the ‘latest model’, then I need to stay in shape. I better watch my attitude. And I better be a ‘good wife’ or he’ll trade me in as soon as he finds something safe ways to make money online better.

I am confident that marcus will remain by my side safe ways to make money online if I gain weight (yup – done that!), get sick (check), have problems (check, check, check), have trouble with the parents, cope with mental illness of a family member, journey through depression, battle with my faith, and so much more. None of that matters because I know I am his safe ways to make money online final choice. He ended the selection process the day we married. I am confident and secure in that – but I wasn’t always.

When we adopt a worldly view of marriage instead of safe ways to make money online a biblical one, trouble is at our doorstep. We see hollywood stars marrying and divorcing on a whim. Britney spears’ first marriage lasted 55 hours. Zsa zsa gabor was married 9 times! And divorced 9 times! Kim K was married for only 72 days to her safe ways to make money online 2nd husband. Dennis rodman and carmen electra had been married 9 days safe ways to make money online before calling it quits. Sadly, the list goes on. Hollywood seems to have set the new standard for marriage. And it’s not a very high one.

Marcus and I have made the vow that god is safe ways to make money online in our marriage. We aren’t going to interfere with what he has brought together safe ways to make money online and made one. If there are problems, which there has been and will be, then we are going to take those problems to him safe ways to make money online to help us deal with them. We will trust him to help us solve our problems. We will look to him for solutions. In conclusion

Are you seeing any of these additional red flags in safe ways to make money online your marriage? If so, please know that there is hope. At some point in our 21 years of marriage, marcus and I have had each one of these red safe ways to make money online flags. And yet, here we are. Happily married. Incredibly happy. We are deeply in love with each other. So, my friends, even if you are seeing most or all of these safe ways to make money online red flags, there is hope of a healthy marriage. Here are some suggestions if you are struggling:

Criticizing and negativity ~ read scripture verses that empower you. When you find yourself being critical or negative, STOP and replace those thoughts with a scripture verse. Post these verses around your home if you need to safe ways to make money online as reminders. Start being intentional about speaking blessings over your husband. Thank him for the things he has done – even if it is taking out the trash. Write little love notes of appreciation. Say little prayers throughout your day. Sure, it might be difficult and awkward at first, but it will get easier. And your mindset will change. Don’t make excuses. Just do it!

Chronic anger and unresolved conflict ~ get to the root of your anger. It might not even have anything to do with your safe ways to make money online spouse. Ask the lord to help you locate the root. Is it a hurt that has been ignored? Trauma from the past? Unforgiveness? Find that root and get rid of it. Maybe you need to have some counseling or read some safe ways to make money online good books on whatever you are dealing with. Maybe you need to sit at the feet of jesus safe ways to make money online and let him pour his amazing love over you. Or maybe you just need to go for a coffee safe ways to make money online with your husband and talk about an issue that has safe ways to make money online been bothering you.

Blame transfer ~ take responsibility for your behavior. Period. When you make a mistake, admit it. Apologize for it. Be specific about your apology – don’t give one of those blanket apologies that are meaningless safe ways to make money online (“I’m sorry for anything I’ve done to hurt you”). A real apology indicates wrong-doing. If you lied about something, be specific in what you lied about and acknowledge the safe ways to make money online hurt. Ask for forgiveness. Then change. Turn away from your sin. By the power of the holy spirit, you can.

If we are completely honest, one of the biggest hinderances to change in any of safe ways to make money online these areas is our profound ability to make excuses. If you are going to just make excuses for why safe ways to make money online your marriage won’t be healthy, then you won’t see any change at all. It’s as simple as that. If you are prepared to roll up your sleeves and safe ways to make money online do the work, then you will have a front seat to the mercy safe ways to make money online of god. He will bless you for your devotion to him and safe ways to make money online to your marriage. I know this personally.

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