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While lesbian representation still lags, things have, over the last 15 or so years, come quite a long way for people who identify as best new ways to make money LGBTQ+: we can get married, rupaul’s drag race is viewed by approximately seventeen zillion people best new ways to make money worldwide, and pride is sponsored by barclays. Being queer, at least if you’re lucky enough to be surrounded by tolerant people, is usually about as big of a conversation as whether best new ways to make money you’d rather fuck fleabag, the hot priest, or both (hi!). But despite this, it’s not all roses: gay clubs have been steadily dying, the british media is a transphobic mumsnet clusterfuck, and the minions (the fucking MINIONS!) had a float at pride.

“the mainstreaming of queer culture was something I had been best new ways to make money thinking about a lot,” abraham says, reflecting on her motivations to write the book – which takes her from britain’s first gay marriage to dragcon, serbia’s much-policed pride parade, and sweden’s centre for radical sexuality. “I was seeing the knock-on effects of the assimilation of LGBTQ+ people through things like the closure of gay bars, gay bars I really loved going to. The more people I talked to the more people were best new ways to make money like, ‘oh, gay people can get married now and have kids now best new ways to make money and live like their quote-unquote straight neighbour, so why would we need to be ghettoised in gay best new ways to make money only spaces?’”

Pulling on her experiences as a journalist for outlets like best new ways to make money dazed, vice and queer bible, queer intentions is part memoir, part investigative journey into all the different ways there are best new ways to make money to be LGBTQ+. Like most great works, it also came about after a break up. This one involved a dramatically lesbian U-hauling to iceland, where she lasted just ten days before packing up and best new ways to make money returning to london. Still, the relationship made her think a lot about trading in best new ways to make money a life of partying and relative non-monogamy for one of homo domesticity and child-rearing. “it was that first adult relationship where you think you best new ways to make money might get married and have kids with someone,” she says. “when it ended I suddenly had a lot of free best new ways to make money time on my hands, and I was like, why did I want to get married? Actually I’d always appreciated more alternative forms of living.”

The book, which might actually make you LOL on public transport (it would be remiss not to mention the drunken boat-top dance routine performed to “lady marmalade” with a sex workers’ group), is also thought-provoking, saddening, and ridiculously readable. At its heart, it seeks to explore the tensions of acceptance and difference best new ways to make money that surround being LGBTQ+ today, posing a series of questions most queer people will have best new ways to make money found themselves pondering, like: why do we still need explicitly gay spaces? Is marriage really the great aim? If not nuclear, what might the families we have look like? What’s the point of (an increasingly commercial) pride? How does better visibility for trans people square with the best new ways to make money violence they continue to face?

Ultimately, the answers are never clear cut. “when I started writing the book I saw things in best new ways to make money quite a binary way,” abraham says. “you either live a really queer life or you live best new ways to make money a really hetero-normie life.” as she wrote, she began to switch from an either-or point of view to seeing things on a spectrum. “then by the end of the book, I didn’t even see it as a spectrum – I saw it as a complicated constellation of options.” in other words, there’s no single way to be LGBTQ+. Then again: a one-size-fits-all approach wouldn’t be very queer now, would it?

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