Social media, the new ‘comforter’ for heavy hearts nigerians how to find ways to make money –

Ejeagba, an event planner and hospitality expert in lagos, had planned to marry the woman instead of his wife, but he later changed his mind due to some developments. Soon, the woman’s moves started to bother ejeagba, and being a man with few friends, he didn’t know who to talk to. For him, talking to his wife was not an option because she how to find ways to make money would be directly affected by the situation, but luck soon smiled on ejeagba when he found a how to find ways to make money platform on facebook where he could pour his heart out how to find ways to make money to other members, who were quick to offer some advice and words of how to find ways to make money comfort.

“when I was newly married, one of my former potential fiancées tried to come close how to find ways to make money to me but I didn’t know how to handle the situation. I shared my story on a platform on facebook and how to find ways to make money I was able to get solutions. Even though some comments were ridiculous and funny; I had to sieve them and use the ones that how to find ways to make money would work best for me. Personally, people’s opinions don’t offend me; I went to the platform because I knew I would how to find ways to make money get practical solutions. In my case, my wife should have been my confidant but I couldn’t tell her about it because it also affected her how to find ways to make money directly; and I don’t keep too many friends, so the social media platform was the only hope for how to find ways to make money me. It has been a blessing to me,” the abia state-born man said.

Like ejeagba, many nigerians now turn to the social media for consolation how to find ways to make money and comfort in times of emotional needs. This is what the social media has become for some how to find ways to make money people who go there to share personal stories with people how to find ways to make money they have never met. Often, the fear of being judged makes people shy away from how to find ways to make money sharing their issues with family members and friends, some of who may end up using such information against how to find ways to make money them.

For instance, the challenges blessing okoro, an administrator, had in her marriage at a young age created a how to find ways to make money huge emotional vacuum that was difficult to fill. Most times, she was alone with her thoughts with no one to how to find ways to make money talk to. Interestingly, after the marriage crashed, she chose to fill that vacuum for other people who how to find ways to make money might be going through similar issues, a decision that led to the birth of her instagram how to find ways to make money platform for women and men to talk about issues bothering how to find ways to make money them emotionally; though anonymously.

“my failed marriage inspired me to start the platform. During my ordeal, I realised I couldn’t talk to people around me about what I was how to find ways to make money going through in the marriage because I was scared of how to find ways to make money being judged; everyone is covering up something. The best people to talk to are strangers because they how to find ways to make money give the best advice and they are not sentimental.

“people feel free when they can share their stories anonymously; that is why some stories on my platform are unbelievable how to find ways to make money but true. They can express themselves. Before the advent of social media, people used to share their stories with their friends anonymously how to find ways to make money by narrating it in a way that would make it how to find ways to make money seem like the problem was not theirs but a third how to find ways to make money party’s. That is why there are many miserable stories on my how to find ways to make money platform because they are anonymous.

“most of the stories I receive are centred on emotional how to find ways to make money issues and domestic violence. People say my platform is scary because when they read how to find ways to make money things posted there consistently, they may start having a negative perception of marriage; but those are the kind of stories we receive. People tend to voice out more when they have problems; when things are going smoothly, people hardly talk. They only come there when they have problems,” she told saturday PUNCH.

“I get overburdened sometimes and even depressed on their behalf. I wanted to run the page free of charge before how to find ways to make money but I realised that if things are done for free, people take it for granted. So after a while, I had to monetise it because I realised that some how to find ways to make money people shared one-sided stories and exaggerated. It is natural for human beings not to value a how to find ways to make money service they don’t pay for.

“when I shared the story about my failed marriage, I gained more popularity; it went viral. A lot of people told me they were inspired by how to find ways to make money my story. I share my knowledge on my platform for free, I have continued because I have been encouraged. I decided to use myself as an example so that how to find ways to make money people can relate to it. After sharing my story with people, they felt very comfortable to share their confidential stories with how to find ways to make money me.

“most of the stories I share are related to heartbreak how to find ways to make money or domestic violence but I usually see negative comments on how to find ways to make money them probably because those who share negative comments have never how to find ways to make money witnessed it before. I have been insulted on blogs before for sharing my how to find ways to make money own story. I always urge people to learn from the situations I how to find ways to make money share on my platform,” the 30-year-old woman said.

“those days, I didn’t have anyone to talk to; my only consolation was reaching out to women who were how to find ways to make money invited to talk shows on TV and radio. Most of the time, when I wrote to them through the presenters, I never got feedback. I resorted to talking to myself as though someone was how to find ways to make money talking to me. I would often write things down and read them to how to find ways to make money myself repeatedly. That was how I was able to find stability emotionally.

“there was an instance when a woman accused me and how to find ways to make money other participants of taking sides with her husband after I how to find ways to make money shared the story on the page. She could discern that the story was about her. There are instances where the other party would come to how to find ways to make money me to say their side of the story. And some of them always say they felt better after how to find ways to make money sharing their story.

“I also have my life so I get overwhelmed; sometimes I have to bear everybody’s burden but there is nobody to bear mine. That is why once in a while I take a how to find ways to make money break from social media. I observe these breaks intermittently to make me rejuvenate and how to find ways to make money face my own issues. It takes a large chunk of my time but it how to find ways to make money is my volunteer service to the society,” she said.

“these are tears of joy; it is a grateful reflection of my past. I sit back today and all I can is be how to find ways to make money grateful. I am trying to give hope to a lot of how to find ways to make money mothers out there, both married and single mothers; that no matter what you go through to raise your how to find ways to make money kids, you have to find that strength to move on. Always channel your love to your children. I remember when I got married and on my wedding how to find ways to make money day I discovered my husband did not love me.

“on my wedding night, he said, ‘I don’t love you; I only married you because you were pregnant.’ I gave my life to christ again because I could how to find ways to make money not just come out of a marriage I just got how to find ways to make money into. I decided to have my child in church. The first time that boy popped out, every sadness left. I loved him with all my heart. I made a vow that I would give him all how to find ways to make money the love. In a bid to make my marriage work, I found out that I was pregnant again and this how to find ways to make money time the situation was even worse because my husband was how to find ways to make money gone even while we were together even though I tried how to find ways to make money to love him with every bit of me but he how to find ways to make money didn’t understand my kind of love.

“when I was about to have my baby girl, there was no money; all I had on me was N150. I had to beg a nurse to deliver me of how to find ways to make money my baby in her room with no medication. I had my baby in a room. When she came, I fainted because I had lost a lot of blood how to find ways to make money and my husband could not even take me to the how to find ways to make money hospital. I had to let go of the marriage because I how to find ways to make money needed my sanity to move on and focus my attention how to find ways to make money on my children. We all have a story to tell, I have forgiven my husband,” she had said tearfully.

Also recently, francis odega used his instagram page to address some allegations how to find ways to make money levelled against him by his wife and daughter. A video had gone viral about how the actor chased how to find ways to make money his wife out of his house after threatening to stab how to find ways to make money her. In response to the allegations, the comic actor denied that he was a deadbeat dad how to find ways to make money as the allegations had suggested.

“since there is no face-to-face interaction, people prefer to share their personal issues with individuals that how to find ways to make money they are not familiar with; they feel confident to share. For example, if someone did something wrong and the person is under how to find ways to make money sanction, he would not want to share that information with individuals how to find ways to make money who cautioned him earlier against such behaviour. People are now busy with the internet at meetings and how to find ways to make money conferences. Their minds are not always present; they are always busy sharing information with people thousands of how to find ways to make money miles away,” he said.

“if someone shares information with another over the internet, he may not get the best because there is nothing how to find ways to make money that can be compared to face-to-face interaction. Social media cannot replace personal experiences. That is why some marriages contracted online tend to have how to find ways to make money some challenges; communication goes beyond verbal communication; there is a lot to communication through non-verbal cues.

“social media has removed humanity from social interaction; the relationship created there is secondary and not primary. It cannot cure loneliness; there is a need for a sense of humanity. I believe that as individuals move through the hierarchy of how to find ways to make money age, they will either continue to rely or opt out of how to find ways to make money social media platforms depending on their circumstances. There is no way it can replace humanity, the social divide between people cannot be cured with this,” he added.

“as individuals, we have our differences. Some people do it genuinely in order to see whether how to find ways to make money they can get solutions to their problems; while others may use it as a medium of exploitation. They do these things anonymously so people cannot readily verify how to find ways to make money the genuineness of their problem. Some of them are actually helpless. I think it is always better to have a credible how to find ways to make money institution where such people can take their problems to and how to find ways to make money they are verified.

“one of the implications of this act is exposure; anyone who comes across their information becomes aware of their how to find ways to make money issues. Sharing problems on social media out of loneliness is a how to find ways to make money psychological euphoria. It will only create a psychological solution and not a how to find ways to make money physical solution. Meanwhile, what is needed is a physical solution. If an individual believes that their loneliness can be cured how to find ways to make money by going on social media, that’s his perception; he would attain some level of satisfaction.

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